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1Pre-Code
2Attention Directing
3Action
4Difficult Situations
5Response
6 Interaction
7Information
8Youth Code
9Meetings
10Mood
11Constructed
12Connection
13Relationship
14Disengagement
15Negotiation
16Assessment
17Project Status
18Travel
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Meetings

I once suggested that meetings should be held with all the chairs at the table, facing outwards. This way everyone could listen to everyone else but not see their faces or body language. The reason behind this suggestion is that body language, deliberately or otherwise, very often signals negativity or disagreement. When people are sitting passively in a meeting listening to one person talking should they be able to communicate their thoughts and feelings? The meeting code put forward here is a concrete means of allowing listeners to communicate with the speaker. The listeners can use the code to communicate directly without saying a word. This meetings code is not intended to be used throughout a meeting at every conversational point. If, however, a presentation is being made, then the listeners can communicate via the code. The code would not be spoken but would be written, in large numbers, on tent-shaped cards which a participant would have before him or her. A blank card could be displayed or any one of the code numbers. Although this code is intended for meetings it could also be applied to lectures-or even in school. Not all the codes would be applicable but a few of them would make sense. If something has not been expressed clearly, should you not be able to indicate this? If you are not clear what the conclusion is, should you not be able to ask for this?. These are the sort of communications which the code makes possible The speaker may choose to ignore the code or may seek to respond to it. Different participants may have different needs and it may not be possible to respond to all these needs This code can be overused and abused, as with many other codes. If the speaker feels this is the case, then he or she can ignore the code. When everyone seems to be offering the same code, however, the speaker would do well to respond to it. This code offers a communication that is simply not available at the moment other then through a facial expression and body language.

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    I am confused. I am lost. I cannot follow you. Please repeat. Please clarify. Please simplify. I do not follow you.
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    Do not assume that we know the current situation. Please spell it out. What is the background? What is happening?
  • 9/3
    Get to the point. What do you propose? What do you want to see happen? What is the concrete suggestion?
  • 9/4
    Could you summarize what you have been saying? Could you repeat the main points? Could you please bring your talk to an end?
  • 9/5
    More information is needed at this point. I need more information. Can we have some facts and figures? Where is the hard data?
  • 9/6
    What are the benefits? Why is this worth doing? Why is this a good idea? Why is this going to work? Why does this make sense?
  • 9/7
    What is the downside? What are the risks? What are the drawbacks? What might go wrong? What is weak about the idea?
  • 9/8
    This is a weak case. I am doubtful. I am not convinced. I do not agree with the argument. I do not agree with the conclusion.
  • 9/9
    I fully agree. I am convinced. I have followed your line of reasoning and I agree with you. I am on your side.
  • 9/10
    This stuff is irrelevant. This stuff has nothing to do with the main point or the purpose of the meeting. This is a distraction.

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