The important point here is that the code user does not want to be told what to do but wants help in making his or her decision. It may be a matter of giving advice based on a wider experience. It may be a matter of directing attention to something which is being overlooked. It may be just an independent view which is not biased by emotions.
There are many ways in which a decision can be helped. Oncethe broader picture can be seen the decision becomes much easier. If you have a good road map it is easier to choose the right road.

The parent or adult must resist the temptation of providing the decision. At worst the adult may say: 'If I was in your position, this is what I would probably do . . .'

It is best to say something like: That is the way I see the situation but the decision is yours to make.' Different values and different long-term goals can lead to different decisions based on the same input.