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  • ABOUT
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1Pre-Code
2Attention Directing
3Action
4Difficult Situations
5Response
6 Interaction
7Information
8Youth Code
9Meetings
10Mood
11Constructed
12Connection
13Relationship
14Disengagement
15Negotiation
16Assessment
17Project Status
18Travel
15
Negotiation

Negotiations range from the usual adversarial and confrontational modeto a cooperative mode in which both parties seek to design a way forward.

There is usually a lot of jockeying for position. There is a need to make suggestions and also a need to ask for things specifically. There is a need to express feelings and responses.

In negotiations standard situations repeat themselves again and again. A code provides a shorthand way of dealing with standard situations. As usual, a code also provides clarity and removes ambiguity.

A code removes the need to be emotional or to show emotions.

Just as there are formal sequences of moves in a chess game so codes can be put together to create such sequences in negotiation.

If both parties are not fully aware of the codes then code lists can be provided for both parties - or they can be put on the wall of the meeting room.

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  • 15/1
    is this a genuine negotiation? Are you coming here because you need to be seen to be negotiating? Are we here to get a solution
  • 15/2
    Could you please layout your position? What are your needs and fears? What would you like to see as the final outcome.
  • 15/3
    You are asked to lay out what you think our position might be. what do you think are our needs and our fears?
  • 15/4
    What can we agree upon? what do we disagree upon? What do you see as the main sticking points?
  • 15/5
    what are the benefits that you are offering? Could you lay out the advantages or benefits for us?
  • 15/6
    As it is, your offer is not attractive. You will need to increase the benefits if things are going to go further.
  • 15/7
    These fears are real and do need to be addressed. Can we address them now?
  • 15/8
    What is your proposal (or counter-proposal)? Please spell it out again.
  • 15/9
    What do you see as the alternatives and options at this point?
  • 15/10
    We have gone over the old ground again and again. Could we try to be creative and to find some really different approach?
  • 15/11
    How do you see the future unfolding? How do you see alternative futures? What sort of things are likely to happen?
  • 15/12
    More information is needed on the following matters . . .
  • 15/13
    At the moment I see this as rather one-sided. You want too much and are prepared to concede too little.
  • 15/14
    Are we treating this as an adversarial confrontation or are we seeking a way forward? Should we use the six hats approach ?
  • 15/15
    What are the contingency and fall-back positions? If things do not work out where will we be?
  • 15/16
    Who are the people who really matter in this situation? What might their thinking be? How are they going to react?
  • 15/17
    We are moving towards an outcome. what are the weaknesses in the design we have? How can those weaknesses be overcome?
  • 15/18
    Is this outcome going to be acceptable? How are those outside this negotiating room going to react?
  • 15/19
    This is a stalemate. We are not getting anywhere. We ought to acknowledge this, and see how we might move on.
  • 15/20
    Are there matters which have been left out? Have we covered all the points? Is there a need to tidy up?
  • 15/21
    Can we review what we have discussed and what seems to have been agreed?
  • 15/22
    Who is going to take responsibility for what? Who is going to do what, and when? How are the agreed actions going to be taken?
  • 15/23
    What is the next step? Where do we go from here?
  • 15/24
    That was constructive. That was good. I think we made a lot of progress. Thank you all.

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