There is always the hope that relationships can mature and change. Sometimes this is possible and sometimes it is not. Code 14/8 is a clear statement that the relationship is over. The friendship aspect is a sort of compensation. As with almost all of the other code 14 items it all depends on whether the other partner is already thinking the same way or whether it is a surprise. Feelings do change. Minds do change. people do change. Circumstances do change. Having a code to signal the type of change does not cause the change but allows it to be expressed with clarity and directness. Accepting that a relationship is over may not be easy. Anything will be viewed as an excuse. But an excuse for what? An excuse for a change of feeling? A change of feeling should not need an excuse. Feelings are not a matter of choice or acts of will. They need to be signalled fairly and honestly. Grumpiness and bad temper are a poor way of signalling a change of feeling.