There is always the hope that things will change. One partner may know that the other partner does not share the same view of the future - but hopes that that will change. Feelings may remain the same but there can come a time when there is a need to be realistic. One or other party wants to get on with life. The present relationship is a barrier. It is hard to let go for the sake of possible future benefits. The present benefits are present but the future benefits are mere possibilities. It is always possible to continue on as before and let the other party make up his or her mind. There may not be a need to act on behalf of the other party.