Again, this code is an acknowledgement. That is the way things are (or seem to be to one party). Perhaps habit is a sufficient basis for a relationship. Perhaps the partners have known and accepted this for a long time. Why then bring it up? It may be brought up because one or other partner is no longer satisfied with the state of affairs and wants to end the relationship. Code 14/4 is a statement of the present situation as a preamble to some intention. If one partner feels this way, it is rather hard for the other partner to persuade the first partner that he or she is wrong. Feelings are feelings and have their own validity.