Cows grazing in a field are content. No one has told them that they are bored. Would they be happier if they were told they were really bored? There are relationships which are calm, content and not very exciting. If the people in such relationships are happy that is all that counts - no matter what other people may say. Code 13/2 does not apply to such situations. Where one party, or both, feels that the relationship is stagnating then code 13/2 is a direct way of expressing this feeling. The other party may agree, disagree or protest. The code can also be used in an indirect way to suggest that the other party may be becoming bored or restless. The code indicates that the relationship is stagnating, but it can be used to test the opinion of the other party. 'I feel you are becoming bored or restless.' 'It feels like 13/2 to me. What about you?' It may be difficult to distinguish between boredom with the situation and boredom with the other person. It is up to an individual to make that distinction. The end result may be the same: code 13/2.