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1Pre-Code
2Attention Directing
3Action
4Difficult Situations
5Response
6 Interaction
7Information
8Youth Code
9Meetings
10Mood
11Constructed
12Connection
13Relationship
14Disengagement
15Negotiation
16Assessment
17Project Status
18Travel
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Connection

There are three parts to the relationship codes. The first part, relationship start, refers to the development and growth of a relationship. These are the opening phases and moves. Matters are moving fast - or slowly. Both parties are eager but also watchful. The second code is relationship continue. This is the ongoing relationship. It may have been ongoing for a long time. The third code is relationship ending. This deals with the ending of a relationship. The relationship seems to be ending. It may be possible to rescue and revive it. The relationships are essentially the relationships between people. To some extent they can also apply to relationships between corporations in business. For this purpose just choose the codes that apply most suitably. Each party may have a different view of the status of a relationship. The codes enable them to express this different perception. All the situations expressed in the codes could equally be expressed in words. Sometimes such words might seem rather blunt. The neutrality of the codes allows for a more precise expression of view. Words can be used as well as the codes: 'It seems to me that we are getting close to code __.' 'Would you agree that code __ would be the most applicable?' 'Are we really in code __?' It is possible that the situation is best described by more than one code. 'We seem to be somewhere between code __ and code __.' 'There is a bit of code __ and a bit of code __ and even a bit of code __.' 'Matters keep oscillating between code __ and code __.' In all events the codes can provide a starting point for discussions and insights into a relationship.

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  • 12/1
    I am looking forward to the development of this relationship. I like you I believe you also wish the relationship to develope.
  • 12/2
    I have no hidden agenda or dark intentions. I like you and want to know you better. I want the relationship to develope.
  • 12/3
    Let's try it out and see how we get on.
  • 12/4
    Where do we go from here? What is the next step?
  • 12/5
    There is no hurry. Let things evolve on their own. I think things should continue as they are for the moment. Do not pressure me
  • 12/6
    This seems to be getting a bit one-sided. I seem to be doing all the running. If you respond to my interest, please show it.
  • 12/7
    You are getting too intense. You are crowding me. Give me space or I shall back off. Slow down and let the relationship develop.
  • 12/8
    I am not going to ask you any questions and I do not want you to ask me any questions.
  • 12/9
    I want you to be very honest with me about your status, commitments, baggage and encumbrances.
  • 12/10
    You seem to be becoming too possessive. I need space. I want to let you know how I feel.
  • 12/11
    You are becoming very demanding. I find this difficult. I feel I ought to tell you this.
  • 12/12
    I am in this as a romance, as an adventure. I am not in this as a long-term commitment. I thought it only fair to let you know.
  • 12/13
    I am looking for a long-term relationship or commitment. If that is not what you have in mind then I am not interested.
  • 12/14
    I like you very much and I want to be friends. Nothing more heavy than that. Friends are very valuable.
  • 12/15
    I just want a small place somewhere in your life. That is all. I won't try to enlarge this place.
  • 12/16
    I love you for ever - or until next Monday.

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